This link to the newsletter from The Community Action Program of Lancaster County provides some wonderful insight into how women (yes, it’s still predominantly women) survive the destruction from domestic violence.
I was intrigued by the article of the lady who housed pets for victims. It is interesting to note that there are MORE shelters for animals than for human victims of DV.
When I needed assistance, town police were inept (duped with the con-manipulation) and there were no rooms available in any Lancaster County shelters. I also learned that a mother of 4 children couldn’t find a place to stay in the entire Philadelphia area.
Carmel, my cat, had been locked from his litter box and food on the days I stayed away. My employee would discover this situation upon entering for her shift.
I was able to flee with my cat at the end of Sept 2011, to a home of a former customer. The family was willing to let Carmel stay with me for a couple days. Unfortunately the home owner got weird about her space. She began to think I might want to move in (no way) after she invited me to teach lessons in her sun room. She had her own dragons to slay . . . As it turned out, her husband rounded up volunteers to remove many of my belongings and put them in a free storage space for a year — very thoughtful, indeed.
I had to move 1.5 hours away from the town I called home for 27 years. Three years have passed since I made the decision to end an abusive relationship. I was able to get out before the physical violence escalated. I kept my customers and employees safe — but we were out of work and my 7 businesses destroyed within 90 days.
I’m still not completely free but Carmel is here with me today — watching as I write. He’s been my comfort cat through everything. His day of adoption is coming up early May. I can finally say that both Carmel and I are doing well 🙂 though we still need a home to call our own. Anybody got leads?